Here is another gem of wisdom from Iain Matthews in the last chapter of The Impact of God: "The person who used more or less to control her religious world with images, words, feelings, cannot but feel disconcerted when this activity of hers no longer seems to yield God. When God circumvents our radar, the instruments we once employed to connect with him are going to feel redundant, and his deeper presence will go unnoticed, until we adjust our expectations. The temptation is to keep fiddling with the control panel ('at least I'm doing something'). A better alternative, John suggests, is to surrender. Surrender, and be with the one who is content to be with us."
This is really good advice. You just need to surrender and let God love you!