Am I on the right path?

Today is my nephew's birthday. I remember getting the phone call in Chile telling me about his birth in 1960. The birth of a child is always an occasion for joy and thanksgiving. Now, I pray for him so he is on the right path. Some choices in life are more difficult to discern than others. Sometimes we need more information; sometimes, what seems to be a good discernment will change because of circumstances. How can I know that the Holy Spirit is guiding me in the discernment process? 

Ignatius distinguishes between people who are trying to live a life of love, in relationship with God and those people who, as he says, are going from bad to worse, meaning their lives are totally self-focused with no regard for others or God. He indicates that the Holy Spirit acts differently in each case. These guidelines are for those who are trying to be open to the Spirit (whether or not they always manage it).

For these people of goodwill, the moods, thoughts and feelings that come from our lives being in tune with the Holy Spirit tend to be things like love, gentle inspiration, peace, courage, hope, openness, strength or repentance. (See fruits of the Spirit in Galatians 5:22.) These movements help the personto engage in life, to 'choose life', they are welcomed and appreciated.
On the other hand the moods, thoughts and feelings that indicate a countermovement, going in a direction away from the prompting of the Holy Spirit tend to be things like nameless fear, anxiety, inappropriate sadness, self-centredness, seeing endless snags ahead, lack of hope.
These feelings tend to paralyse, to prevent a person acting in a way they might wish, so as far as possible they are identified but not allowed to take centre stage, however fascinating.
When we are under the influence of a countermovement we call it 'spiritual desolation', when the Spirit is more clearly present we call it 'spiritual consolation'. The thoughts and feelings we are talking about here are not just superficial, fleeting sensations, but deeper streams within our heart and mind.

Spiritual Desolation

Why does it happen? Perhaps we are not living in a way we would like, not giving God any time, so busy rushing there is no time to pause, pray, be quiet. Perhaps it is time to make changes, to move on and we won't see it. Perhaps there is no obvious reason, BUT we can use the experience to try to be faithful, trusting God even though we don't feel like it.

• In desolation, try not to change major plans that were made at a time of consolation.
• Go against the desolation if possible, God is still there even if it does not feel like it.
• It usually helps if we can share our thoughts and feelings with someone we can trust and has some experience of the ways of God and faith. Some people find speaking to a spiritual director helpful.
• Desolation usually goes for our weakest points, this can help us to identify them.
• Be patient, hang on, consolation will return.

(NB Spiritual desolation is not the same as depression, care must be taken to distinguish the two.)

Spiritual Consolation

• Be thankful! Recognise the real gifts in your life and give thanks to God for them.
• 'Store it up', remember this experience and what it tells you about God, so that you can draw on the memories in difficult times. (Desolation will return!)
• Don't become too proud, or certain that you have life sorted out, remember how helpless you can feel when in desolation.
• Sometimes we have an experience of God that comes out of the blue, there seems to be no reason for it, but we know it is God. When this happens, it is good to still be aware of our actions, noting what was in the experience itself and what comes afterwards which may or may not be from God.

This piece on discernment comes from a booklet originally created by Ruth Holgate, Paul Nicholson SJ and Steve Hoyland.
Discerning Prayer
Decision making based on the approach of St Ignatius of Loyola

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